For both options ยท After you write
What happens after you write
The steps are the same for both options. He shares information about himself first. Either of you can stop at any step, without explaining why.
- You write to him.Say which option you are interested in. Then answer the questions in your own words. Write as much or as little as you like.
- He answers within 7 days.He answers every letter, even when the answer is no.
- You talk 2 or 3 times by video.You decide together, as you go, when to turn your cameras on. You both show your faces, or neither of you does.
- He tells you who he is.His name and his full medical reports, before you decide anything.
- You meet in person.He travels to you. Meeting him does not oblige you to anything.
- You both decide.If you both say yes, you agree on the details of your option before anything else happens.
What depends on the option
The steps are the same for both options. What you agree at the end is different. Option B is short and fixed, so agreeing on it is quick. Option A needs a longer conversation about how you will share the years ahead, and its pages explain what that conversation covers.
With either option, each of you can get advice from your own lawyer, in your own country, before you decide.
Why it is quick
He answers every letter within 7 days. He talks with several women at the same time, and he will always tell you honestly where things stand. From your first letter to a decision usually takes 6 weeks or less.
He prefers to give you a clear no quickly, rather than a slow maybe. A decision like this should be made carefully, and then made. Waiting a whole year without a decision helps nobody.
He is not talking only with you, and he does not pretend to be. You can ask at any time how many other women he is talking with, and how far each conversation has gone. You will get an honest answer.