For women who want to have a child
You want to have a baby. He can help you get pregnant.
He is a healthy man in his forties. He does not want a romantic relationship, and he will never try to take the child from you. If you are looking for a known donor or a co-parent, this is for you. There are two options, and you choose one.
- His test results and his police record are on this website
- His name stays private until you have talked
- He answers every letter within 7 days
Two options. You choose.
The two options are very different. In Option A, he stays in the child’s life from far away. In Option B, he helps you get pregnant and then steps away. Read both. Then write to him about the one that suits your life.
True for both options
He travels for work most weeks of the year, and this will not change. He cannot be a parent every day, and he will not live with you. With either option, the child lives with you, in your home.
If you want a father who lives in the house, he is not the right person.
- He will never try to take the child from you. He will not ask for the child to live with him, and he will not try to change where the child lives.
- He does not want a romantic relationship. This is not dating, and it will not become dating.
- He tells you who he is before you decide anything. On your video calls, you decide together when to show your faces. After the calls, he tells you his name and shares his full medical reports.
The two options side by side
Each option has its own page, with all the details.
| Option AA baby, and a father who stays in touch | Option BA baby, then he steps away | |
|---|---|---|
| After the birth | He stays in the child’s life, from far away | He steps away completely |
| Contact | Calls about once a week, and a few visits a year | None |
| Money | Every month, based on the cost of raising a child where you live | None |
| Big decisions | You decide, after listening to him | You decide alone |
| How you get pregnant | You decide together, after your video calls | Artificial insemination only |
| The details | You agree them together, before pregnancy | Fixed, and agreed before pregnancy |
For both options
These pages are the same, whatever you choose.
- His health and fertilityTest results
- About himHis values
- What happens after you writeAbout 6 weeks
- What he tells you later6 things
- Questions and answers14 answers
- Write to him5 questions
He reads and answers every letter himself. From your first letter to a decision usually takes 6 weeks or less. He prefers to give you a clear “no” quickly, rather than keep you waiting.