For both options · Your letter

Write to him

First a few quick facts, then your own words. Write as much or as little as you like. Only the questions marked "Required" must be answered.

Answer within 7 daysEvery letter answered

About you

Your nameOptional. A first name is enough.

Your email addressRequired. He answers here. It is never shown or shared.

Your ageRequired.

Your countryRequired.

Your cityOptional.

Which option are you writing about?Required.

Your life today

All optional. He asks because a child needs a safe and stable home, with people nearby who care. There are no right answers.

Your work, and how you support yourself

The home the child would grow up in

The people around you who would help, such as family or friends

Children you already have

When you would start

When would you like to start?Required.

What have you already done towards having a child?Optional. For example: a health check, visits to a clinic, savings, talking with your family.

In your own words

What do you want from him, and what do you expect?Required.

Your conditions: what will you not accept?Optional.

What values do you want to pass on to your child?Optional. For example: family, faith, education, respect.

Your questions for himOptional.

Your letter goes to him by email. It is not kept on this website.

If you prefer to write an email

You can also write to him from your own email. Answer the questions above in your own way. The address is not written on this page, to keep it away from programs that collect addresses for spam. Click the button and it appears.

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What happens to your letter

It goes from this website to his mailbox, over an encrypted connection. The website does not keep a copy. Only he reads it, and he deletes it if you ask him to.

He answers every letter within 7 days, even when the answer is no. If the answer is no, he tells you clearly and explains why. He will never simply stop answering.

What makes a good letter

There are no right answers, and a long letter is not better than a short one. He wants to see that you have thought about the plan itself, not about making a good impression.

The letters that get a long answer usually say what the writer would not accept. A letter that agrees with everything tells him very little. Agreeing is easy now, and harder later.

Please do not send photos or documents, even by email. Your appearance does not matter here, and he does not want to keep anything about you before you have decided.